STOP: GIVING YOUR POWER AWAY TO OTHERS

[GLORIA NEWSOME]

So what exactly does it mean to give your power away?
Stop looking for answers in all the wrong people and places. Stop setting ourselves up to be victims, so that we can start learning to trust and love ourselves, we need to begin to practice discernment. Discernment is having the eyes to see, and the ears to hear - and the ability to feel the emotional energy that is Truth. If you say yes when you want to say no, you are giving your power away. Giving your power away means to give authority if your own life to something outside of yourself. It occurs anytime you feel powerless and unable to assert control over your own life.

The problem is every time that you give your power away you allow yourself to someone else, you give up your autonomy. You stop living consciously and instead, become a product of your conditioning and the desires that others have for you. You give your power away any time you engage in Behaviour that is not in alignment with your core self and your core values.

When you own your power, you think for yourself. You live life consciously instead of in reaction. You take full responsibility for your life and you feel completely in control. Life becomes easier because you start living it on your own terms.

Every time you obsess about something, over think something, over analyze something – every time you drive your friends crazy about something – there are more opportunities that you have missed to stay present, meet and connect with other people.

So stop caring so much, and start moving forward! The minute you begin to move forward, your life will become much easier to manage than you have ever imagined! Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it totally agrees with your own reasoning and your own common sense.

Anytime you blindly accept what anyone else says as truth because of some preconceived authority you have, you are giving your power away. A healthy scepticism is a good thing, but a close-mindedness is not. When you use your present circumstances to justify why you can not do something you desire, you give your power away.

If in your need for approval and what you consider to be "love" you allow disrespect in your life, you are giving your power away.
If you are not "standing in your truth," you are giving your power away.
If you allow someone to speak to you in a derogatory or degrading way, you are giving your power away.
If you don't speak up when you know you should, you are giving your power away.
If you lower your standards in order to be accepted or liked, you are giving your power away.
If you are not your authentic self, you are giving your power away.
If you stay in situations you know are not good for you, you are giving your power away.
If you say yes when you want to say no, you are giving your power away.
If you agree with people you know are wrong, you are giving your power away.
If you stay silent when you know you should speak up, you are giving your power away.
If whatever you are made to feel ashamed of is what you really are, you are giving your power away.
If you allow negative influences to invade your mind and sap your energy, you are giving your power away.
If you do something you don't really believe in, you are giving your power away.
If you live life on life's terms instead of your own terms, you are giving your power away.

Until you choose to stop giving your power to others you will attract people who are happy to have a freely available power source...US. When you own your power, you think for yourself. You live life consciously instead of in reaction. You take full and total responsibility for yourself and your life, and everything you think, do, and say - and you acknowledge that others have the responsibility for everything they choose to think, do, or say. Life becomes easier because you start living it on your own terms. Each of us can make such an incredible difference, every single day. You know that when you connect with your heart and the wisdom within you can be a beacon of light and peace in the world. There is nothing like the power of love each of us carries within ourselves.

Goals are great because they provide a sense of direction that shapes your daily decisions so that you can achieve an outcome you desire. When you do this you are basically handing over the reins of your own life to the other person. You are making the reaction you elicit from someone else far more important than your core values. You are sacrificing your authenticity in order to gain some short term benefit.

Find a positive way to communicate with others what's really true for you. Whatever you do, do not go along with something you really do not want to do, or lie about how you really think, feel, or desire. This will only lead to a lot of future hurt and mistrust. Don't indulge in playing the "Blame Game" for it is an attempt to change or control, for this eventually will lead to your feeling helpless, hopeless, weak, and resenting of others...Be aware of the words that you use, because they do form the basis of your thought patterns. Listen to your words, and notice whether they reflect your freedom to decide for yourself what you feel or do.

You have the power to be who you really are, to be where you really want to be, with whom you would really like to be and doing what you would really like to do. If you find yourself not honestly able to say, "I love where I am. I love who I'm with. I love what I'm doing," then something has to change. You have the power to make that change.

If it's a situation in which you do not feel happy, you have three choices:

1. Change the situation. Re-arrange it.
2. Change the way you see the situation.
3. Leave the situation, and find another.

Be yourself, and in doing so, you are stopping giving your power away! If you have given away your power, you can take it back. It's still yours. Own it. Once you recognize the impact your subconscious mind has, you can use your own power, in the form of intuition, faith, courage, and self-respect, to become the author, writer and director of your own life story.

From My Heart To Yours MzGloria